Valli’s Mission

Choice: It's important to me that families who are experiencing the most painful time of their lives have more choice about the death care process. Most Australian funeral homes are owned by profit-driven US owned conglomerate companies. These companies each have 100+ funeral homes in their portfolio that empty your bank account in order to make millions for international investors.

Control: When a loved one transitions, we feel like we have no control so it's important to me that families have opportunities to exercise as much control as possible at every step of the death care process.

Transparent: I will always be honest with you about costs and processes.

Affordable & No Hidden Costs: Despite what we are led to believe, death care can be much more affordable including fair pricing and no exorbitant price gouging.

Authentic: Your loved one will be cared for with the respect and honour they deserve. I genuinely care and I love connecting with families. Money doesn’t motivate me. This is a passion project to bring sacredness back to death care.

Sacred & Beautiful: I deliver services that are affordable yet still magnificent and special. I have an open heart and lots of love to give. I can't wait to nurture you and your family through this sacred process

Losing a Parent as a Child

As a 2 year old child, I had an early introduction to the process of death and dying when my father transitioned to the After Life. The shock of a metastasized cancer diagnosis, a few short months to live and sudden palliative care was so painful for my family that after his death, he was rarely spoken about again.

I had so many unanswered questions and there was a sense of unresolved grief within the family. Emotions were uncomfortable and buried. I would have liked to participate in death care rituals to create a healthy narrative about the natural process of death. This experience has been integral for me to support children through their grief process.

Mother to a Child with a Life-Limiting Condition

I am a dedicated Mother to a non-verbal child with profound intellectual impairment who lives with a life-limiting medical condition, as the result of a rare, genetic disorder. I’ve spent a decade fighting to keep my child alive against the odds of medication-resistant epilepsy, hospitalisations, surgeries, injuries, victimization and medical mistakes. I understand how it feels as a caregiver to witness the prolonged suffering of your own child, as it catapults you into depths of despair, desperation and powerlessness that few can comprehend. I’ve watched on helplessly as my child slowly lost the ability to walk, twice, over several years and then painstakingly rehabilitate to learn to walk again.

As agonizing as it is to witness my child’s endless suffering, she has been my Greatest Teacher to prepare me for this career. I am a very strong and soothing nurturer who can hold families through their grief. I am an expert in non-verbal communication, which is a valuable tool to understand the needs of people at the end of life when they lose the ability to speak, particularly in relation to acute pain symptoms.

‘Holding Space’

I’ve been ‘holding space’ for my child as she continually processes, resists, accepts and surrenders to symptoms of chronic medical conditions. I have planned her End-of-Life Ceremony, the way I want to tell her Life Story. When the time for her transition comes, she will be honoured for the sacrifices she made to be here in a broken body. It has been a privilege to serve my beautiful Warrior Child. She will leave a lasting legacy in me - of Compassion, Grace, Humility, Courage, Truth and Servitude.

Being Present

We may not understand why some people experience so much tragedy and suffering in their lives, but we can be fully present in their pain with them. We can walk alongside them, love them deeply and learn to accept that sadness and sorrow are an integral part of the human experience. Part of being human is learning to accept that we just don’t have the capacity to understand everything because of our limited consciousness. 

Gratitude

After we experience immense suffering, loss and heartache, it is possible to learn to live with awe and wonder at the beauty surrounding us. The colours of the flowers are more vibrant and we stop to admire the Black Cockatoos gliding through the sky at dusk. The wattle flower nectar smells sweeter and we revel in a child’s joy and laughter. We savor the winter sun shining on our skin and when we hear music, we dance and sing freely. Everything that is natural and beautiful becomes a healing elixir for our Soul. We embody gratitude.

Qualifications

Funeral Celebrant Certificate - The Funeral Fix

Death Doula Certificate, IAP

1st Class Honours Thesis - Anthropology, 2005 https://espace.library.uq.edu.au/view/UQ:322968

Bachelor of Arts - Double Major Anthropology, Single Major Political Science, University of Queensland, 2003

Somatic Embodiment Certificate, Coaches Rising

TESOL Advanced Diploma, ATA

Working with Children Blue Card & Police Clearance

Work Experience

Respite Volunteer, Little Haven Palliative Care, Gympie, Queensland 2025 - present

Volunteer Researcher, National Centre for Action on Child Sexual Abuse 2024 - present https://nationalcentre.org.au/blog/australian-children-experiencing-disability-at-risk-of-sexual-abuse/

Founder & President, Sacred Justice Inc 2021 - present https://sacredjustice.org.au/ & https://youtube.com/@traumatotriumph1.0?si=k21wXBFNrRI8-foS

Senior Policy Officer, Australian Government Department of Health and Ageing, Darwin, Northern Territory 2006 - 2015

Outdoor Recreation Instructor, Adventure Bound NT, Mary River, Northern Territory